In many countries it’s common to be invited for a cup of coffee or tea as a way of extending hospitality. I hadn’t fully understood the implications of this gesture until a recent speaking tour in Turkey.
I’d just given a 90-minute speech to 200+ members of the Eskisehir Chamber of Commerce. The Chamber president, Harun Karacan, a charming, successful businessman who spoke no English, invited me and my local host and friend, Tamer, to his office for coffee. His invitation was followed by this Turkish saying which his aide-de-camp, Arda, translated for me:
“In Turkey, a cup of coffee can last 40 years.”
In other words, Arda explained, when we share a cup of coffee, we develop a relationship that can last for many decades.
I nodded showing my understanding.
There was only one problem.