Life Is a Self-Designed, Personal Growth Seminar

by Rebecca Morgan, CSP, CMC on June 5, 2019

Photo: Rebecca Morgan, Ayutthaya, Thailand

 

Our lives have incredible highs and some heartbreaking lows. The former are exhilarating. In the moment you think, “How can life get any better?”

The lows often involve blaming ourselves, feeling stupid, and being embarrassed for our part in the mishap. Or you condemn others, thinking they caused this setback.

The difference between those who rebound quickly and those who linger in their negativity is their perspective. Wallowers stay stuck in victimhood, never reflecting on the lesson the experience has for them.

The sooner you can shift from anger or sadness to introspection, the happier you will be. Every disappointment has a gift for you, if you are willing to look for it. This is not always easy. The more time distancing you from the event, the easier it gets. However, if you can train yourself to look for the lesson as soon after the event as possible, the less suffering you’ll have.

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Stand Out As a True Professional

by Rebecca Morgan, CSP, CMC on May 29, 2019

Rebecca Morgan quote Photo: Rebecca Morgan, Vianden Castle, Luxembourg

 

What makes someone stand out as a true professional?

  • Is it their deep knowledge of their job?
  • Their pleasant attitude and cooperation?
  • Their willingness to tackle tough topics and projects?
  • The ability to creatively problem solve?

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Honesty, Without Caring, Is Abuse

by Rebecca Morgan, CSP, CMC on May 27, 2019

Rebecca Morgan quote Photo: Rebecca Morgan, Red Lotus Lake, Udon Thani, Thailand

 

Nearly everyone I’ve known has said they want honest feedback on areas they can improve.

Hearing this, some perceive it as an invitation to be mean. Sometimes really mean. Insulting. Demeaning. Humiliating.

Abusive.

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Is Your Self-Reliance Dooming You?

by Rebecca Morgan, CSP, CMC on May 26, 2019

Photo: Rebecca Morgan, Ayutthaya, Thailand

 

A pal has been a supervisor at our local hardware store for eight years. He recently shared a story about Eric, the new general manager — someone who’d never worked in a hardware store and was hired about 6 months ago.

Eric is a nice guy, but he doesn’t see how he’s causing himself to fail. It appears that Eric has a lot of confidence since he never asks anyone else for input. The result is a messy store, frustrated staff and irritated customers. The store sales numbers are suffering as a result.

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Take Calculated Risks

by Rebecca Morgan, CSP, CMC on May 25, 2019

 

Photo: Cassowary bird, Cleland Wildlife Park, Adelaide, AU

 

“Take calculated risks. That is quite different from being rash.” —George S. Patton from a letter to Cadet George S. Patton IV, June 6, 1944

Taking calculated risks means boldness with forethought. It means weighing the outcome and avoiding unwise action. A calculated risk might be giving a presentation to your boss’ peers, telling someone they have a habit that annoys you, volunteering for a project you’ve never done before, or trying a new sport.

We can learn to take calculated risks, and they get easier with repeated attempts. Eventually you learn that you can pick yourself up and continue even if your boldness causes you to fall flat.

Morgan W. McCall Jr., coauthor of What It Takes: Decision Makers at Work, conducted a study comparing 20 successful Fortune 500 executives with 20 whose careers hadn’t been successful. One difference he found was that the achievers were secure enough to admit their fallibility, and they handled their mistakes with poise and grace. They analyzed their mistakes and learned from them, but they didn’t become obsessed. “Executive achievers don’t dwell on their mistakes and aren’t afraid to take risks for fear of failing again,” says McCall.

Many times it has been difficult for me to overcome my initial paralysis when faced with a risky challenge. Years ago when I entered the pension business, my boss assigned me to call on one tax attorney per day. Attorneys intimidated me. I almost had a heart attack.

My comfort zone was narrow. I felt comfortable calling on other insurance agents to ask them to recommend our services, but that was not where the real business was. The business came from tax attorneys and accountants.

After a few months of stressful and anxiety-ridden calls, my comfort zone expanded, and I was comfortable calling attorneys. But it wasn’t easy to overcome my self-doubts and intimidation. I learned from reading, workshops, and experienced friends that all growth occurs outside the comfort zone.

Now as I enter new areas requiring a stretch of my comfort zone, I’ve learned to ask myself these questions. Use them to help you act outside your comfort zone. When deciding to take a risk, write your responses to these six questions.

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Harness the Power of Commitment

May 23, 2019

Tweet   “Do or die!” “Don’t give up the ship!” “Damn the torpedoes and full speed ahead!” Military expressions are valuable during war when the price of failure is death. But they lose impact in our business or private life: failure is not quite as final. However, these sayings are based on a principle that […]

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Video clip on Google’s Project Aristotle.

May 22, 2019

Tweet This is a brief clip on Google’s Project Aristotle. This information is also included in my book, Leadership Lessons from Silicon Valley: How to Survive and Thrive in Disruptive Times, which can be ordered here.

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Leaderful Listening

May 16, 2019

Tweet In leadership training, participants are typically told how important listening is. Yet few heed the advice. I can understand why. Often, it’s because we already think we are good listeners. But how a leader listens is more crucial than one’s listening style as a peer. Leaders’ everyday behaviors have gravitas and impact. Subtleties and […]

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Vulnerability + Strength = Personal Power

April 24, 2019

Tweet   Some people are drawn to forceful leaders. Others appreciate leaders who have a gentler approach. I — and many others — find the combination of vulnerability plus strength is compelling. Many people feel connected to others who are willing to show humility, admit when they are wrong, demonstrate heartfelt emotions, and express sincere […]

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Recap of “Create a Slook” talk

April 17, 2019

Tweet What a delight to receive a special gift a week after I spoke at the San Diego Professional Coaches Alliance. It wasn’t a plaque, mug, or letter opener (although they did give me a great water bottle at the event). It was this wonderful recap article of my talk in their newsletter, with a […]

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