Eschew Frivolous Talk—Seek Meaningful Conversation

by Rebecca Morgan, CSP, CMC on November 8, 2018

 

Morgan quote Frivilous Talk Photo credit: Rebecca Morgan, atop one of the 3000+ temples in Bagan, Myanmar

 

Frivolous: unworthy of serious attention; trivial; of little value.

“And then he said…then she said…and then…and then…” and on and on. Have you been on the listening end of frivolous talk? You know it when you hear it, when someone prattles on and on about people you don’t know, will never meet, and don’t care about. Or when someone keeps talking and talking, saying little, perhaps even repeating themselves. A friend has a saying for this: “I’m just talking here — not saying anything.”

Have you found yourself spending time involved in — or listening to — more frivolous talk than you’d care to? I know I have. But I also had an experience that made me realize how much I contribute to frivolous talk.
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Practice Micro-connections Every Day

by Rebecca Morgan, CSP, CMC on November 6, 2018

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You may have heard the term “microaggression”—a form of bullying defined as brief exchanges that send denigrating messages to individuals because of their group membership. I believe we can broaden the definition to any subtle bullying—eye-rolling after someone’s comment, verbal digs and zings, ignoring someone’s comments, and other disparagements. These can happen even when both parties are part of the same group.

We’ve all been on the receiving end of these kind of disrespectful encounters. They are designed to dismiss us, to put us down, to signal we don’t have value. Some of us have even perpetrated these, perhaps when younger and not conscious of the effect they have on others.

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A Formula for Growth

by Rebecca Morgan, CSP, CMC on October 18, 2018

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“Why stay we on the earth except to grow?” —Robert Browning

Most people would agree with Browning. Unfortunately, growth doesn’t always come easily; often we feel “stuck.” If you’re feeling stuck, here’s a formula to help you get unstuck:
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Couple Candor with Kindness

by Rebecca Morgan, CSP, CMC on October 10, 2018

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Don’t Make Decisions for Me Without Consulting Me

by Rebecca Morgan, CSP, CMC on September 20, 2018

Rebecca Morgan quote Don't make decisions

It happens at work:

“She won’t want to be on the committee. She’s too busy.”
“He wouldn’t like this new project. He likes what he’s doing now.”
“He has a family at home so won’t want to take the trip to visit the new customer.”
“She doesn’t like public speaking so we shouldn’t ask her to speak at the conference.”

It happens in one’s personal life:

“He won’t want to accompany me to the class/concert/play.”
“She’s fussy about eating so we she won’t want to join us to try the new restaurant.”
“He’s not a big outdoors buff so we shouldn’t bother inviting him to join our hike.”
“She doesn’t like crowds so we won’t ask her to come to the parade.”

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Why Venting is Toxic

August 30, 2018

Tweet “I need to vent” is an oft-heard expression when one is frustrated. Great that the person is clear on what they need. However, they often vent indiscriminately to whomever is within earshot. I’ve had strangers express their frustration to me, even though the cause of their angst had nothing to do with me. Venters […]

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Stop Offering Feedback

August 23, 2018

Tweet I’m sure I’m not the only one who bristles when someone asks, “Can I give you some feedback?” It’s usually unsolicited advice about something the giver feels you did wrong.Rarely is there any inquiry first into your reasoning for the behavior, just, in essence, “You did something I don’t like.” It is often focused […]

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Article in Malaysia’s Leaderonomics Magazine

June 30, 2018

Tweet I’m honored to have my article, “When You Need to Give a Hug” in this week’s Leaderonomics Magazine. It’s about my encounter with a sobbing woman in an elevator. See the attached.

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Join Aug. 10 webinar

June 7, 2018

Tweet Please be my guest. We are allowing my contacts to attend this upcoming Leadership USA webinar which is usually only for members. I will share key information included in my most recent book, Leadership Lessons from Silicon Valley: How to Survive and Thrive in Disruptive Times. It will be interactive, and fast moving. If you’d like […]

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Innovation to Help Engineers Get Closer to Customers

March 22, 2018

Tweet As a consumer, you may commonly hear yourself express your frustration with software, a website or an app. “What were they thinking?” you may ask when something doesn’t work as you think it should. Some companies involve customers during the design phase, holding focus groups, talking to end users, or watching how customers use […]

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